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IMPROVE the Moment

1/9/2019

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Every moment is not our best, this is a fact.  
So what do we do when we find ourselves in moments we REALLY don't want to be in.

​ Those where we are experiencing feelings we are not comfortable with, where are skin is crawling, the negative self talk about how much you can't stand this are getting louder, the clock just literally slowed down, why is this happening to me, why is this not over yet!  
You know those moments, we all go through them.  
Here is a great DBT skill that is (you guessed it) another acronym.  The IMPROVE skill is a "crisis" survival skill that is pulled out a lot by my clients and myself .

Imagery- Dust off your imagination and use it to get through it.  Imagine being in your happy place, or something funny happening in the moment you are in, or how amazing you will feel when this becomes a memory!

Meaning-  It is annoying how often I use this one.  There is meaning in all that happens to us if we look for it.  What is this experience trying to teach you about yourself or life?  WE all learn from our mistakes, some of us take a few more oops' until we get it, AND we get there eventually (no judgment!).

Prayer- Take a moment and pray for strength, serenity, patience, whatever you need to get through the moment.  It can be
a religious prayer or a mindful meditative moment.  Prayer comes in many forms, don't get hung up on a word here. 

 Relaxation- Take a break!  Do something that will be relaxing in the moment.  How about some square breathing, or counting your breaths, a big stretch, neck roll, a mindfulness break noticing what is around you, grounding yourself with counting backwards or colors in the room.

One thing in the moment- Do one thing at a time and in the moment you are in.  If you are in class or watching your kids 700th practice find something to focus on and dive in! 

Vacation- This is most of my clients fav by far! Take a break and come back. If you can't physically get up and take a lap around the building then do it mentally.  Imagine you are in your most relaxing destination and get lost.  Don't forget to come back though. 

Encouragement- Be your own cheerleader, we all need one!  Tell yourself it is almost done, this too shall pass (my fav), you got this, how much better your will be when this is history ... I think you get it.  

In order for the IMPROVE the moment skills to work, it isn't necessary to do all of these in succession.
 
Simply here are 7 ideas and all you need is 1 to work.  

Best of luck improving your moments.



Namaste!

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Here's to keeping it moving!

1/2/2019

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Here we are in last week's future, 2019!
The future is now so time to make it count.  I am not one for resolutions as I am more about resetting.  Resetting what I know is good for me and I need to do (notice no shoulds here).  
The end of the year brought a big health scare for me, truly putting things in perspective for me.  I can not keep giving more of myself than there is.  I know lots of people are nodding here as so many are guilty of this. So I have decided to embrace more mindfulness and self-love.
This is the year of self-compassion, self-kindness and most importantly, SELF CARE.  I am useless to help anyone if I give all of myself away.  Most importantly I want to be there for my family in health as well as happiness.  DBT's undercurrent is mindfulness with a heavy dose of nonjudgemental self compassion.  I am going to be keeping it moving by pumping the brakes more often.  Carving out time for my meditations, yoga, diving into this whole 30 for a reset to more mindful eating.  Essentially taking time for me in all the positives so I can be of more help to everyone else.  For those of us who feel we need to be all to everyone, consider this your permission slip to practice self care.  Please take care of yourself in this giant reset of a new year.  Make 2019 the year of self-care/kindness/compassion.  All your loved ones and those you serve will thank you for it.  
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Namaste my friends and wishing you all the best of the best this year xx

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    Audrey Roach-Slivinski, LCSW

    This is where I share what I know to be helpful to 100's.  I am a life long learner and obsessed with learning and living with these wonderful DBT Skills.  Intensively trained in DBT and offering the only groups of the kind in my metro area.  I adore what I do and  am fortunate as well as grateful to be able to  share this knowledge for over 15 years.  Trained @ NYU, the Yale Child Study Center, BTTI (Behavior Therapy Training Institute), under the mentorship of DBT Guru's - Dr. Charles Swenson & Nancy Gordon, LCSW, assisting me in bringing the best version of Evidence Based Therapies to my clients.    Attaining these skills as a teen = the sooner a level of peace and happiness can be achieved.  Life is painful naturally, my job is to teach others to tolerate that pain and not allow it to morph into suffering.  Excited to share ... thanks for reading! 

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